It's January 4th and I am still on the right path toward my fabulous new year. I even got through a few rough patches this week and I'm still standing.
I visited Dr. Kickass, and even admitted to blogging about him. I told him that I had blogged about him, and asked if he wanted know what I had said. He said I could tell him if I wanted to, but, "Whatever you write, or whatever you say is perfectly okay, because what you think about me doesn't define me. I know who I am, and whatever you think of me really doesn't matter."
Oh, my. I assured him that I meant everything in a very respectful way, and he even laughed when I told him his blog name. Then, we moved on to a discussion about why you do allow people to define who you are.
Is it habit, or do we really believe what others tell us about ourselves? And if that is the case, why? This is just one of the fun questions I get exactly one hour to answer as the good doctor waits, somewhat impatiently, to pick apart the words that exit my mouth.
It's a an odd exercise for me to think before I speak, to ponder word choices and to review the thought before I verbalize it.
"I'm trying not to do that," I said.
Trying isn't really doing anything, he tells me. You've been spinning those wheels for 41 years. If you want different results, you better get ready to "do" instead of "try."
So I leave his office, and think a lot about doing instead of trying.
Change is hard. Life is weird. Welcome, 2009.
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Are we who others want us to be?? That's the real question.
Pick up a copy of The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz.
It's fairly short, to the point, and very true. It's wisdom to live by.
Thank you. I will look for that book, and I appreciate you taking the time to respond. jl
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